If tears left bruises we would see the impact of emotional suffering and give it the serious attention that it needs.  But too often we experience a trauma recovery drive-thru experience that goes something like this:Pick up flowers and cards at window #1.Next, go forward to receive a week's worth of casserole meals.At the last window you'll be handed a bundle of unsolicited advice about "moving on", "you're better off" or "maybe if you would have just tried this, things may have ended differently".Now head to the "Back to Realatly" exti and hammer down because you're on a highway where people don't slow down for crybabiesHealing doesn't happen in the fast lane.  It is a place to become angry, anxious and numb.  There is fear in slowing down because it would allow time to process the pain and actually deal with the negative emotions associated with loss and trauma.I'm trying to slow down.  Quiet moments don't come naturally when you have five children, but the early dawns in July make walks in solitude possible.  Wild flowers are abundant  in the fields and seven are picked for each soul in my family.  Each time I fill…