We live in a world where choosing the fate of an unborn child is like casually looking at a menu. The options are numerous and prices can vary. Convenience is a priority like ordering take-out after a long day. We are told that 1 in 4 mothers-to-be will not choose life. But unlike a meal, this decision will forever have an impact.
What has driven so many women to reach this decision? Why do feelings of inadequacy cast a shadow on parenthood? The womb should be the safest place in the world, but sadly it has become the deadliest. Why is this happening?
The joy of motherhood has been aborted.
This high calling now has shame associated with it whether a mom is unwed, married, rich or poor. It seems that no circumstances are ideal for bringing children into a world.
Even a married couple can expect eye rolling for getting pregnant too soon, not spacing the children enough or having more than two. The British royal couples are even confronted for their procreation decisions. Having Kids offered this unsolicited advice to William & Kate and they have already contacted Harry & Meghan about their future family.
“…we wanted to offer a few thoughts for your consideration. As you know and appreciate, the example the British Royal Family sets is extremely influential. Many studies also show that public figures serve as effective role models when it comes to family planning. Your discussion of having a larger family raises compelling issues of sustainability and equity. Large families are not sustainable.”
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Can lawmakers bring restoration to the stigma surrounding tiny humans? They could if it filled their pockets with money. A revolution is needed and it will not start with them.
You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.
-Buckminster Fuller
If the parents of today want to be grandparents tomorrow, then the joy of children must be restored in the minds of the next generation NOW or the millions that die each year will soon be billions.
Creation was spoken into existence. If we want life to thrive, we must speak it. We must speak life over ourselves (even if no one else is) and to everyone in our circle of influence.
Now to get the beam out of my own eye: I am guilty of not always choosing life with my communication (verbal and non verbal). Words can abort a dream, ambition or calling. Body language can trigger depression, anxiety or suicide. If I choose to speak death, it should be of no surprise that the person listening is choosing their own death or the death of their child.
The right words can bring hope, confidence and innovation. While in Florida a few weeks ago for a conference, I realized that I am not speaking enough life into my own children.
My husband and I are the weird parents that take our family all the way to Orlando but not the gates of Disney World. We will one day, but this time we decided to do some low budget outings while in the Sunshine State. The kids were just thrilled to being playing outside instead of stuck in the house. No high priced tickets were needed to keep them happy.
After a few days of vacation, we shifted gears and took our oldest son to an event to make a priceless investment in his future. The cost was more than an amusement park ticket but the return will last a lifetime.
Father God was tugging on Jonathan’s heart all weekend- I could see it. I didn’t question him about what was taking place because I had my own struggles to work through. A main focus of First Steps to Success by Dani Johnson is simply this…ask yourself, “what needs to change in me?” Not your spouse, boss, family or President, but you.
Prior to the lunch break we were encouraged to get alone and focus on what has been the result of the way we’ve been thinking and the way we’ve been acting.
Feeding my focus was fruitful during that break. In just a few minutes I jotted this down in my journal.
My Actions: Holding back love for my family
What have/can my actions infiltrate?
My children learn to give love based upon how they receive it.
My children learn about the love that God has for them based on the love that I have for them.
Children who feel loved feel secure.
Children who feel secure have confidence.
Confident children become confident adults.
Confident adults are successful.
Successful adults become effective leaders.
Effective leaders can influence many for Christ.
Loving my children TODAY is sharing Christ with the world TOMORROW.
I can’t change the abortion statistics this year. But each day I have the choice to take negative thoughts captive and use communication that speaks into a future of possibilities. Choosing life giving words today will impact tomorrow and the year after that and the next generation. Having a positive vocabulary with and about my children may not come natural, but the reward is eternal. It is so easy to complain about life as a mother of five, but little ears are listening and it will alter their future decisions. Join me and choose life today!